FAQs

Do you give homework?
I do tend to give homework between sessions, these can range from logging patterns, worksheets on specific competencies, and even journal prompts. Homework is not mandatory for our work, but clients report they are often very helpful.

I am a big believer that homework has to be relevant to and tailored to the client. I also love exploring fandom and popular culture to bring that in to our work.

How long does counselling take?
The length of time client engages with counselling varies from client to client, and depending upon presenting need. In my experience most of my clients have gained powerful insights between ten and twenty sessions. The frequency of sessions per month depends on the client, but generally I will see clients once a week to begin with. Clients in the past have often transitioned to twice a month, then once a month. My door is always open for clients to return as needed, even for single sessions. I have had quite a few clients work with me for an initial twenty to thirty sessions, then subsequently return months or years later for smaller number of sessions. My door is always open for clients to return to pick up the work. If the work is being ended or postponed for a period, I offer a complimentary closing down session to tie up any loose ends and put the working relationship to rest, this is an important step in the process and can assist with later returns.

Can I change my therapist if I am not connecting?
Absolutely you can. If at any time you are feeling that working with a particular counsellor is not working for you, it is your right and responsibility to yourself to change counselor. If at any time in our working relationship you are no longer feeling I am serving your needs, please raise your concerns. If you choose to pursue working with another therapist, I would be happy to give you referrals or links to counselling listings.

There may be occasion where it becomes necessary for a therapist to end a therapeutic relationship. Sometimes this happens due to a personality conflict, more often than not it is due to the therapist not feeling adequately trained to serve a particular client need or deliver specific interventions. It is very uncommon for a personality conflict to occur, but there have been times where a referral out has been required. At which point, this will be discussed in person/virtually and not through email, and specific reasons will be given. Depending upon the need, a short term referral might be appropriate and the client is free to return to our therapeutic relationship. These options will be discussed.

What intersectional communities are you informed in?
I am able to work with a broad swathe of client concerns, but I specialize in working particularly with the following communities and thier specific needs,

Kink and Fetish communities
Poly and Non-Monogamy communities
Queer Communities
Neurodiverse Communities
Alternative Spirituality communities
Fandom communities

Can you send me an email outlining what we worked on?
Unfortunately, due to time constraints this is not a service that I can provide to clients. Apart from the brief notes I write for my own benefit, it is the client responsibility to keep track of what we work on in sessions.

May I record our sessions for later listening?
Unfortunately, due to personal privacy and data protection laws, recording sessions is a breach of confidentiality of both client and therapist. Even if the client gives consent to record the session, this constitutes a liability and is thus not permitted during our sessions together.

What do you mean that you are 'Supervised'?
Supervision is an ongoing contracted professional relationship with another counselling professional. The supervisor acts as a space for a counsellor to discuss client cases and seek advice, opinion, or other professional assessment. Supervision is a crucial part of a healthy counselling practice, guaranteeing ongoing professional development and a confidential space to discuss cases that might challenge me. The supervisor usually has training in supervision, has been part of the field longer, and their role is to challenge, support, and offer professional opinion. Most importantly, the supervisors' role is to guide me towards decisions and approaches in my professional practice grounded in the ethical regulations of my association and in alignment with legal responsibilities.